So who would take who's last name, and a little expansion of that brings us to...
A Marriage:(not an all inclusive breakdown)
I. In the eyes of the couple, a union in front of their friends and family to declare their devotion and love for each other.
..A. Gay couples - same
..B. Straight couples - same
II. In the eyes of the state, an agreement of unity to legally bind two people such to maintain a measurable geneology.
..A. Gay couples will produce no measurable geneology
....1. Don't need to be recognized by the state, No future dependancy or inheritance to be determined.
....2. Should only require the recognition of friends and family.
..B. Straight couples more regularly propogate their geneology.
....1. Need to be recognized by the state for inheritance and dependancy reasons.
....2. Requires more than the recognition of friends and family.
conclusion: The government doesn't need to be involved in a gay marriage ceremony. They want to be married, then dress somebody up and have your own wedding at the park it doesn't have to be recognized by anybody but the two marryees.
and to the:
with the, they shouldnt get married because they cant have kids, it's a faulty argument. What about sterile people? For instance, any male with Cystic Fibrosis can NOT have children. He's sterile...can never had kids even if he tried. So does that mean he can't marry? Or, a couple marries and they DON'T want children. Now...let me guess....they can't marry either....
They may need that ceremony in front of family and friends, but there is no reason to involve the state and besides that if I were sterile for some reason, I would have a hard time subjecting anyone else to a lifetime devotion to my doomed fate. In time any person who does not want kids might find out that they do, and to never be able to provide the one thing that the person I love with all my heart wants the most would be devestating. It would be selfish to endure that upon someone, one of those if you love them you'll let them go kind of things.
if this doesn't make sense, which I have a sneaking suspicion that it won't, please forgive me it's very late!